Have you ever went to bed on Sunday night and felt the entire weekend was wasted? I recently read I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of Their Time by Laura Vanderkam. I’ve been inspired by Vanderkam to develop a new habit that I love (and I’m sure you will, too)!
One of my favorite points Vanderkam makes in I Know How She Does It is a simple and meaningful habit she and her husband do on Wednesdays. She points out that it is very easy to get through the weekend and feel like you didn’t get anything done, or that you had wanted to get together with friends and didn’t get it planned.
To fix this situation, she came up with this Wednesday habit of sitting down together and coming up with 2 or 3 things that can easily be planned and to loosely schedule it.
For example, if the family wants to go on a hike and have lunch with Grandma, it’s easy to plan the hike for Saturday afternoon and lunch on Sunday. By planning in advance it’s productive and meaningful.
I’ve tried this habit for a few weeks and it really does make a difference! Whether it’s planning a few fun activities, planning a social activity, taking time to do a hobby that you love, or spending some time tackling a project, by being on the same page it lessens any tension and makes it possible to make everyone happy! Other ideas for this Wednesday habit are to unplug, recharge with hobbies, exercising, and reflecting on your goals.
There are possible sacrifices that will need to be made to make these habits possible. You might need to limit chores so you aren’t stuck cleaning all weekend instead of living and doing things you love (but isn’t that important)!
I love this habit for a few reasons.
- First, it has helped us communicate what we would like to have happen on the weekends. Our weekends are usually packed with kid activities so any extra time is usually used for rest but it’s been really nice to have open conversations about any extra things we want to do (such as go to a movie, watch a movie, or take a nap)!
- Second, I’m bad at expecting Jason to read my mind. It’s something that I’ve worked on for a long time but this has been a very intentional way of being open with expectations (back to communication). If I want to get together with family, go out to eat somewhere special, or chill I let him know so we can plan accordingly.
- Every Sunday I feel good about getting something accomplished on the weekend, whether it was intentional family time or a project that’s been overdue on the to-do list!
- I am more organized and use my time more efficiently. If I know we have an open Sunday afternoon it’s easier for me to relax and read with the kids while sipping hot chocolate. I’ve let myself have more “fun” on the weekends instead of feeling like I need to cook, clean, and do “mom stuff”.
- I am more efficient during the week of doing things that need done so I can have more fun on the weekends with my family. In other words, I feel more balanced! A mom/wife/homemaker’s job is never done so it’s important to have balance of letting go of that guilt and spending time doing things that align with your personal priorities.
Would this habit help you? What is one of your favorite habits?
Hi ladies! Welcome to week 63 of Women With Intention Wednesdays!
Welcome to a new week of Women With Intention Wednesdays! Thanks for the patience last week when I had food poisoning and rejoining the fun this week!
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Community Building Question: What is one of your favorite parts of Spring?
This is mine! I love baby calves! The kids have 3 favorites this year, they are Teddy Roosevelt (the one in the photo), Lucky, and Doughnut Hole (and yes, they named them all)!
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Hi Jenny- I LOVE this idea! For people that are super busy it is perfect. I’m definitely trying it this Wednesday. Also, this is my first time to link up. Thank you for providing it! I look forward to connecting with you more! xoShannon
Michele Morin says
My favorite part is seeing all the perennials that begin to poke their noses – tentatively – out of the soil in my gardens, and every day brings a tiny bit of progress. Of course, today my gardens are covered in snow . . . but let’s not think about that!
Donna @ Soul Survival says
Jenny, my favorite part of spring is FLOWERS and lots of them, but (sign) not so much the yard work that goes with getting them! LOL Happy Spring and thanks for hosting each week! Blessings!
One of my favorite parts of spring? Sunshine and warmer weather!! It’s so nice to be able to get outside and not have to be bundled up for winter.
And the flowers are a wonderful welcome each spring.
Susan Shipe says
This is a great idea because so many times wives “wish” hubs would suggest something to do and yet when he does – she hates it!!! So having this pre-weekend discussion is a win-win. Excellent! Linked up today at #15
Victoria @ Simplified Life says
I love that we can get outside and be more active. While we do go out during the winter months, there is something about taking a day at the park in the springtime. We are getting ready to have a day trip out to the Blue Ridge Parkway, take in the views, enjoy the wildlife and share a picnic. I can’t wait.
Angela @ Setting My Intention says
Hi Jenny, I love the idea of planning on Wednesday ideas for the weekend. We too usually finish the weekend and wonder how it flew by! I love seeing perennial flowers pop up in Spring. Reminds me of the hope of the resurrection! Happy Easter!
I think these are great ideas about being more intentional about plans for the weekend. Time is something we all seem to want more of and to capture what we feel we are not getting really does mean being intentional about those things that we especially don’t want to miss. Since retiring, I think I love weekends even more because they don’t mean I am catching up on work at home I could not get done during the work week. My favorite habit is savoring the morning reading and talking with my husband. As spring is starting here, I am looking forward to soon being able to do this on our deck with a great cup of coffee!