Valentine’s Day is less than one month away! It’s a day that society and the media tells us should be full of love, romance, chocolate, and passion… Is that how Valentine’s Day is for you? I will admit, I really like the concept of Valentine’s Day. I love pink, chocolate, flowers, jewelry, and of course, romance.
The first year my husband and I were dating, he informed me he despises Valentine’s Day. I was aghast! Honestly, I was really disappointed and more than a little hurt as well. How could anyone despise the day of love? Didn’t he love me enough to want to spoil me on Valentine’s Day?
The longer we have been together, I have started to really understand why Jason hates Valentine’s Day. It’s not because he’s against flowers, love, passion or even my obsession with chocolate! In fact, it’s actually the opposite, which makes me love him even more.
The meaning behind Valentine’s Day is one that all couples should aim for in their relationships. We should honor and love our significant others. We should treat each other with small gifts and tokens of appreciation. We should celebrate the love that we have for each other. We should go out on a date and engage in conversation. We should treat one another with mutual respect. We should be intentional!
However, shouldn’t that be something that we do on a regular basis, not just once a year? Shouldn’t we celebrate our spouse because we want to? Shouldn’t it because we love him? Should it be because it is a day marked on the calendar that tells us if we don’t our marriage is doomed, we suck as a spouse, or that we don’t love our spouse at all? My goal for you is to have a marriage that rocks, not a rocky marriage!
Jason surprises me with “gifts” all of the time. They may not be wrapped or even all that exciting, but they are the gifts that really warm my heart. One gift he is always willing to give is going to get a pizza when I’m exhausted and don’t want to cook. It’s holding my hand on the airplane when we take off and I’m nervous. (I’m fine as soon as we are off the ground!) It’s gassing up my car when it’s cold outside or telling me that I’m a great cook when the kids refuse to eat what I make for supper. These are the gifts that make a difference in my life. (And yes, I have received flowers, jewelry, and the “traditional” Valentine’s Day gifts as well, but the daily gifts are the ones that I truly treasure the most!)
For the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing ways to celebrate the love you have for your husband. There will be little ideas of things you can do for him, ways to grow as a couple, and other topics relating to growing and being intentional in your marriage. Why celebrate your love one day a year, when you can be intentional and have EACH day be a day where you share your love for one another, grow together, and have the romantic relationship that the media tries to sell us every year for one day only?
I hope you will be joining me on this journey. If you aren’t in a relationship, some of these tips will still apply to you, stick with me, there will be other posts during these few weeks as well. Part of being a healthy person is loving yourself and those around you and you can apply some of the tips in that regard.